If you are concerned that someone you know may be considering suicide, the best response is to ask the question, are you okay? Before you begin, know that you may be met with resistance initially but more than likely, the person will be relieved that you care enough to come to them and offer help. Realistically, this may be challenging so here are some tips to start the conversation.
Important! If there is an immediate risk, call Holcomb Behavioral Health Systems at 610-379-2007, or dial 911
First, Ask...
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Assure Them...
A Few Tips...
First, Ask...
First, Ask the Question:
RUOK?
Or
I am concerned about you…
I have noticed some changes that I am concerned about…
You don’t seem yourself, is everything alright?
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Learn More:
- How long have you been feeling this way?
- How can I help?
- Have you considered getting help?
- What is keeping you from getting help?
Assure Them...
Assure them:
- They are not alone
- It may seem impossible but things will get better and this difficult time will pass
- You care and want to help
A Few Tips...
What to do:
- Be genuine
- Listen
- Be compassionate and empathetic
- Offer hope
- Get help – Offer to help them reach out and access supports and treatment
- If there is an increased risk, call for assistance
After the conversation:
Make sure to stay connected! After someone has disclosed their feelings, it is essential that you continue to let them know you care!
What NOT to do:
- Do not judge them or their situation at hand
- Do not argue
- Do not act shocked at their experience. At this time, they already feel alone and having any dramatic reaction may make them feel more alone.
- Do not make promises that you are not able to keep
- Do not offer to “fix” everything. Instead offer to work together.